Personally, I rarely end up using OEM fluids and filters, but instead determine what I think will be most suitable for my application. For example, Mercruiser recommends straight 40 weight oil for my 454s. With modern oils, there's no reason for that, it's just an invitation for more startup wear and a harder to find oil. So instead, my engines get 15W-40 diesel oil (typically Delo or Rotella), which is perfectly suitable for their needs, easier to find, flows better at startup (especially in cool spring or fall weather), etc. And while many OEM oil filters are good, there's nothing magic about them compared to any good quality aftermarket filter. So for each engine, I typically pick a filter that's good quality and readily available and stick to that. For my engines, it's mostly been Wix filters as the options I'd like better (Fram Ultra or Purolator PureOne or Boss) don't produce a compatible filter (Purolator and Fram only produce the correct filter in their lower end lines that I don't want to use).
For parts, I'll sometimes go OEM, sometimes not. Unless I'm in a rush and need something right away, I tend to do some analysis on quality and determine if there's a more suitable option than OEM, or if there's something equivalent in quality to OEM but cheaper. When buying BMW parts, I've found cases where there's an aftermarket version made by the same company that makes the OE BMW part. And the only difference between them is the price tag (about 50%) and having the BMW logo ground off when the part comes out of the mold (for the ones they sell directly instead of sending to BMW). Other times, there is no good quality aftermarket alternative or there's not enough information out there, so the OEM part is the best choice.
For belts, I tend to go to Gates or Continental, as I know they reliably make good belts, and the appropriate belt from either tends to be far cheaper than the OEM belts of unknown origin.
Hoses are selected from any good hose supplier based on what hose is suitable for the application. The only time I'll spend the extra on an OEM hose is if there's something unique about it (such as a molded shape that's truly necessary for proper fit) that isn't available from an aftermarket supplier. Generally I buy hose from Gates, Continental, Trident, or Shields.
Of course, there's always the struggle for what the best option is when the OEM part is discontinued (such as the impellers for my Onan generator). In the case of that generator, there are 2 aftermarket impellers available. I've tried one and it was junk that broke apart just past the 1 year mark. I have yet to try the other, but I'm on my last NOS OEM impeller, so I might have to. Or, I may convert the unit to a different seawater pump setup to get away from the problem.